how to feel sexy while pregnant: 🔥 tips & tricks!

chapters:

• it’s okay not to feel sexy

• trying a bit harder than usual

• beauty tips

• sexy tips

• hype yourself up

• do something that makes you glow

Let's talk BODY.

Whether it is feeling sexy for yourself, or for both you AND your partner, it is completely valid to want to feel sexier during such a weird period of your life! AS YOU SHOULD.
I mean your body is changing, your reality is slightly changing, and you might not feel entirely like your usual self at-times, or even feel slight discomfort with the physical changes happening, from pregnancy.

Many women report feeling unattractive during pregnancy, whether it's because of:

• body size; getting a bit bigger specially by the belly and love handles

• body firmness; skin getting a bit softer, and occasionally more cellulite

• energy levels: feeling tired more easily with certain physical activities

• changes in mobility: not being able to move in the same way you could, as you get heavier with your pregnancy

All of these reasons can make women feel less attractive when pregnant, and make us feel like we want to know how to feel more sexy during pregnancy.

I am her, I also felt the same (currently at 4-to-5 months pregnant), and I am here to tell you it is possible!

You have every right to want to feel sexy when pregnant, and show-off your beauty in all ways you wish!

I am about to share some unconventional tips on how to feel good about your pregnant body, and hopefully feel beautiful during pregnancy, and sexy!

We're talking girly aesthetics but also some sexier tips for you to take into your intimate time with your partner, if you so wish...

(the funner tips are from the third chapter "beauty tips" if you prefer skipping to that bit)

By the way, I am not about to tell you to go work out or try stay in-shape, or even mention food!

Pregnancy is tough enough as is, only do that if you feel the energy or willingness too; don't feel the pressure to do so to uphold a certain image, since it might end up backfiring if you self-impose that pressure or unrealistic expectations, and we are all about feeling good around here; in whatever way that means for you!

And if you are interested in this content, also check-out my other blog posts; pregnant HOLIDAY-edition:

my BEAUTY top tips! how to feel attractive when pregnant on holiday💅

OUTFITS I wore on a hot holiday at 6 months pregnant! 👗

NOW, let's get in-touch with our sexier sides ladies...

it's ok not to feel sexy

So, this one doesn't sound like the vibe I was about to go for, right?

But it's essential I add this little bit in before I get into the juicier tips, because I want you to be able to not feel pressured by a 'need' or 'expectation' to be sexy all the time.

In fact, you need to be even more self-compassionate to yourself, during pregnancy, it's already a lot to manage in every way possible!

I just want to tell you: you don't need to feel sexy all the time, or even most of the time. You are gorgeous and sexy always, but you don't need to always feel it, or feel the need to exert that energy.

We are all humans, and sometimes, we just need to feel a little less sexier and let our feelings flow out…

trying a bit harder than usual

I know, I know - it's about to get a bit more girly I promise!

But I have to also just mention that with pregnancy, I feel comes a slight change of perspective when it comes to how good we feel about our pregnant body.

At least from my experience, being pregnant means I need to try a bit more and put a bit more effort into how I feel about myself, by how I show up and present myself.

My looks and image have been pretty consistent for the past 5 years or so, roughly (I am 25 right now), but in pregnancy everything is changing ALL THE TIME.

Before, I knew what suited me, what I liked, how I felt my best most sexiest self! It was more natural, more automatic.

During pregnancy, your body image and appearance is changing and so comes a need for you to also adapt in how you present yourself and doll yourself up, according to how you feel and what stage of pregnancy you are at.

In the first trimester, for example, I didn't have much body changes during pregnancy so I fit into most of my clothes, didn't have much weight gain and so kept to the same kind of beauty aesthetics and habits in my everyday styling.

BUT

From second trimester (currently), I am gaining more weight, the belly is growing, and I feel the need to do a bit more to feel cuter and feel better about how I look, and that's okay!

Before, I would walk out the house with no makeup, just a nice simple hairstyle that was cute. But now, I feel the need to do a bit of natural makeup, accessorize a bit more, and be more mindful with my outfits so I can help myself feel prettier.

If anything, you are just pouring love into yourself, because you are trying to uplift yourself in whichever way helps you most.

This mini chapter is mostly to tell you that:

If you find yourself trying a bit harder to feel cuter, to feel sexier, to feel more beautiful with your changing pregnant body, to feel more sexy and to feel more attractive during pregnancy, it is completely normal and okay to do so!

Okay, now into the more girly and fun topics, as promised! ...

beauty tips

Let's talk beauty, what you can do to feel more attractive during pregnancy through dolling ourselves up a bit more.

Here's a few tips to feel more attractive when pregnant, and feel more beautiful (these are some specific tips but of course make these your own as fits best!)

• waking up 30 minutes earlier to look prettier; taking some more time in the morning to invest into your appearance

• doing your signature eyeliner, or natural makeup look

• wearing your favourite lip gloss to make your lips pop and always look nice and juicy (I personally love my lip glosses!)

• drape your body in jewellery; buying yourself a jewellery set to wear more accessories like a gold hoop earring set, chain necklace, a few bracelets to put on each arm, ring sets of different styles

• smell amazing! drench yourself in your favourite perfume; flaunt your scent as you strut your way about your day. My personal favourite is pairing a scent oil (this one is the one I personally use from Sunnamusk UK) with a perfume (my go-to is One Million by Paco Rabanne, women), and keeping a body spray in my bag for top-ups throughout the day!

• have default hairstyles that work for you + a good backup plan using hair accessories. For example, most days you might do straight hair down or maybe a sleek back ponytail, but on days where you feel a bit more low-energy have some accessories prepared, like a headband (using the viral way of making it look cute, I had to find on Tiktok!) or a hair-claw clip that matches your hair volume (smaller for thinner hair, or a bigger one for thicker hair).

These are all smaller habits in your day-to-day you can do to up your beauty game, and help you feel yourself more during pregnancy, and in turn, feel sexier and more beautiful!

In terms of some bigger aesthetic tips, such as fashion and style, I would say to focus on a staple capsule!

I would say checking outfit inspo for pregnant girlies on socials, but I personally prefer to think logically about what I like and seeing well "what would suit me with an ever-growing belly?" or "how can I make fashion work for me?".

For me, some examples look like (mostly winter-based since my pregnancy covers the autumn/winter season):

• a legging or flare jumpsuit (I love the quality from weareTALA)

• variations of long-sleeve knit tops (easily paired with trendy jackets and low rise jeans)

• jumper dresses with cute timberlands and tights

• cardigans that are either cropped, chunky or patterned (to add extra style to a more basic fit; I love the variety from Boohoo)

• stretchy midi dresses (skims or weareTALA is my fave; the dresses feel like butter on your skin!)

• low-rise jeans - I promise, try them first! I was skeptical but just own the bump and you will love it! (I personally love the ones from White Fox Boutique)

I try to keep it simple with staples like the above, and then centre my outfit choices around one of the above where I will then layer with a trendy jacket, scarf, cute pair of boots.

Even if you go basic, accessorise to the max with jewellery and a cute hairstyle and you'll most likely be feeling yourself like no other!

We want to be more intentional with our beauty and style so we can be proud of our aesthetic, elevate our confidence, and therefore, have us feeling empowered in our pregnant bodies. After all, being pregnant does not mean having to feel unattractive the whole time (we've got this)!

This is here I would approach feeling sexier when pregnant, through my fashion style and beauty tips but the key here is to make it your own! You'll be feeling gorgeous in no time Queen.

sexy tips

Okay so, here we go from the outside world to the inside world of you in your home as well as with your partner...

Before I go straight to the point and give you tips to make you feel sexier during pregnancy, to yourself, and to your partner, I just want to remind you:

• your partner finds you beautiful and sexy no matter what (I would hope!). Feeling unattractive when pregnant can be more of a reflection on how you feel than what your partner perceives / what the reality actually is.

• your partner knows what your body looks like, even if you try to disguise or hide it, so try not to feel as much shame if you're experiencing some discomfort with the bodily changes!

• be vocal about what you are going through or how you are feeling with yourself throughout pregnancy; your partner might sometimes think it might be that you are not attracted to them when actually its more of an internal dilemma of you to yourself. So, it's good to avoid misunderstandings and promote empathy so you can both uplift each other together.

• allow yourself to feel sexy. That's right! Don't stop yourself. You might be limiting yourself by certain stereotypes that pregnant women can't be sexy, for example. That's wrong. Your pregnancy is what you make of it and your sexiness is always there waiting for you to exude it!

Okay, now that we've had our pep talk, let's get into it!

Tips to have you feeling sexy during pregnancy:

• treat yourself to some new underwear; whatever makes you feel sexiest during this time! Maybe it might be some cheeky boxer sets from Calvin Klein or some lace sets from Loungewear. If you're not too sure what fits your body well, I would say it's always safe (and equally sexy!) to go for a sneaky sexy satin night gown with lace trims. You can go for more subtle colours like baby pink or more bold like red!

Just try, and see how much more of a baddie you will feel afterwards! It will make you feel luxurious, and feel sexy in that lush kind of way!

• invest in some aesthetic pyjama sets. You might spend more time at home when pregnant, so try buy (even if only 1!) pyjama sets that make you feel put-together and beautiful. Feeling beautiful will make you feel sexier and prouder in your appearance and body image.

Even if it's something more conservative, it's whatever suits your taste! (I'm loving the red heart/white pyjama sets from H&M for maternity).

• get creative with some props! If you might not want to focus on your aesthetic or dressing you beautiful, changing body, then maybe think of using some props to make you feel sexier!

You can use these to highlight certain body features you might enjoy from pregnancy's effects, for example bigger breasts. Maybe it's something like a candy bra, which becomes interactive and fun, and accentuates your bigger curves in ways you like, for example!

• allow yourself some time to think about yourself and partner in that way.

By that, I mean, life can be life-ing sometimes and we may get so overwhelmed with our 9-to-5 or life admin, pregnancy fears and forget that actually we have a sexy side to us. We just need to stimulate it and not forget it's there. Sometimes, it's as simple as that!

hype yourself up

This one is all about your thoughts, mindset and self-talk.

The way you think, and speak about yourself or to yourself has HUGE impacts in how you feel. After all, it's how you are treating yourself.

Be nice to yourself, speak to yourself with kindness and compassion, and uplift yourself.

Maybe you're not feeling yourself, but compliment yourself anyway!

Make an effort to always show-up for yourself as a cheerleader, when you see yourself in the mirror or are about to make a remark about yourself.

You are your own bestfriend, and you need to show-up for yourself, even more now during pregnancy, than ever!

You will see how much more empowered and positive you feel about your body image, and beauty, once you start hyping yourself up!

do something that makes you glow

This one is something that is not necessarily related to appearance, body image or sexiness, but is more about promoting your happy hormones so you can feel sexier during pregnancy!

From empowerment is born sex appeal within yourself, and that projects to your partner too. Whether it's you having fun, feeling accomplished or just feeling great about yourself.

All results lead to you feeling sexier during pregnancy!

• For example, for me, I love dance and even though I haven't gone classes recently, I still try to dance a little even if it's a mini-party to myself. It gets me feeling good and happy!

• For you, this may be something like painting, baking some treats, exploring new places, doing yoga.

Whatever you do that makes you happy and have fun, will make you GLOW.

When we glow, we feel attractive we feel good we feel sexy, and that's what we want!

Another way to make yourself glow is through self-care habits! Looking after yourself, whether it's your skincare, your hair health, your body, it shows that you are loving yourself.

• For example, you could do this at home through using a face mask, doing an everything shower, doing your own nails, getting a new buttery body cream with an amazing scent for your body post-shower.

• Or maybe you could go out and go to a spa (I love the Montcalm in London), get a massage or a facial. (In London, there's a new concept called a head-spa where they look at your scalp health but also do head massages, and I have that on my list saved for a self-treat!).

These are all of the girliest, and funnest ways I would engage in to have me feeling my sexiest and most attractive during pregnancy, and I hope it's helped you too in any way possible!

Feeling good about ourselves is something we can DO, and not just expect. Specially, with all the body changes we go through in pregnancy and postpartum, it is important for us to take control of how we feel.

The way I choose to take control of my narrative here is by putting time and energy into finding out the multiple ways I can make myself feel sexier during pregnancy (all of the above) and then exploring what makes me feel better depending on the day or week.

Sometimes I might crave some more self-care, but other times I might have more energy to do something that makes me feel good or excited! Adapting these tips to your needs are the key to have you feeling attractive throughout most of your pregnancy!

I hope this has you feeling a little bit more inspired, and not completely discouraged by your pregnancy experience. You've got this girl! Try at least 1 of the above, and just see how you feel for yourself.

And as always, before we go, our mantra…

Own your Womanhood. Own your Time.

♡

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